tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-44550065491620314552024-03-14T02:40:32.537-07:00Everyday Enneagram BlogLynette Sheppardhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02896463175847071518noreply@blogger.comBlogger56125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4455006549162031455.post-82469180484717614532013-06-27T11:55:00.000-07:002013-06-27T11:55:01.917-07:00Experiencing the Holy Ideas: A Five Looks at Omniscience<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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The most intriguing aspect of the Enneagram for me these days is its value as a map for spiritual growth and presence. Each of us experiences moments of Essence in our own unique and type specific ways. The Higher Virtues and Holy Ideas resonate in type specific ways.<br />
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Reader Ray contacted me recently with the following thoughtful missive - I'm sharing it with his permission.<br />
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"I am trying to understand what omniscience as a "holy idea" is. Isn't that kind of abstract by itself? And once you mentally understand what are you suppose to do to practice, experience it, getting to know what this important thing is not just with the head but with the heart. I've read some of the same things in other enneagram sites but think a going beyond repetition, citing examples, explaining in other words, and furnishing applications would be in good order and very helpful.<br /><br />I have done things as a five that seem to really work but do take time. That is write a phrase, bible verse, quote, favorite idea on 3 by 6 card. Then practice bringing your attention to it like a meditation. I involve breathing, walking, paying attention to my body along with it, tuning into any tension as it arises, and subsequently releasing it. And that also means releasing thoughts and feelings as well and returning to the idea (card) again. The goal: to tap into the essence that makes knowledge full of life. From bible school I learned that through repetition of a phrase, meditation, it can be taken to a higher level, from greek, logos, written word, to rhema, living word."<br />
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He captured my attention with his questioning as well as his practices - I wrote this back to him:<br />
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"Dear Ray,<br />I really like your practice and how you view "Omniscience". I'd like to mention it on the blog and see if any other Fives have ways they approach the Holy Idea or understand it. Of course, I am not a Five so I can only understand it from my own Seven perspective, so other Fives would be most able to express more about it. My thought is that any of the Holy Ideas are somewhat abstract (hence ideas as the descriptor) until your small self suddenly drops away (through meditation, other practice, or spontaneously) and the Self is present. At those moments, the Holy Idea is no longer a concept but an experience - for the Five as I have heard, Omniscience is the sense that you already know everything you ever needed to know - something like that. (Which may actually be what you were saying...) This would be a great discussion point and I'd love to post it on the blog and to get input from other Fives.<br />Thanks for writing and for such a thought provoking question."<br />
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So I invite Five friends and readers to illuminate Omniscience from your perspective and how you integrate head and heart in inviting the Essence experience. And those Enneagram explorers of other types? I'd love to know your thoughts on how you experience the Holy Idea of your own Enneagram point. We learn from one another through self revealing as well as through solitary practice. Comment here or you may also email me at lynette@9points.com if you wish to remain anonymous.Lynette Sheppardhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02896463175847071518noreply@blogger.com7tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4455006549162031455.post-49727722214906824802012-09-05T17:12:00.000-07:002012-09-05T17:12:03.578-07:00Enneagram Explorer Don Richard Riso Passed Away<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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The Enneagram community has lost one of its greatest. Don Richard Riso, Enneagram pioneer, author, and teacher, passed away on August 30, 2012. <br />
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The very first book I ever read on the Enneagram was Don's original paperback - as I recall, it was the only book out at the time. I blushed down to my toes the first time I read his description of Type Seven - and was never the same since.<br />
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I made a pact with myself to learn as much as I could about this amazing personality map with a focus on breaking free of the constraints of habit. While the work has turned out to be a lifetime of noticing, I am forever grateful for the Enneagram in my life.<br />
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Although I did not undergo my professional training with Don (I certified with <a href="http://www.enneagramworldwide.com/" target="_blank">Helen Palmer and David Daniels</a> in 1993), I was privileged to attend many of his offerings at the <a href="http://www.internationalenneagram.org/" target="_blank">International Enneagram Association</a> meetings over the years, and to enjoy informal gatherings and discussions as well.<br />
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He co-founded the <a href="http://www.enneagraminstitute.com/" target="_blank">Enneagram Institute</a> with Russ Hudson, which continues to be a mainstay in Enneagram research, training, and development. <br />
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Don has returned to Essence, and the greater Enneagram community grieves the loss of his presence. We are grateful for the gifts he shared and has left behind. Aloha, Don. We'll miss you.<br />
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<br />Lynette Sheppardhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02896463175847071518noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4455006549162031455.post-78444715725606902592012-07-23T16:37:00.000-07:002012-07-23T16:37:05.127-07:00Top 7 Reasons People Don’t Use The Enneagram<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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My friend Steve (he and his lovely life partner provided the photo for this post) asked me “Why doesn’t everyone use the Enneagram? It’s so useful.”<br /><br />So I’ve been musing on that question for awhile. And here are the top 7 reasons that I’ve found over my years of teaching and consulting. I don’t doubt that there are quite a few more.<br /><br /><b>Reason Number One</b><br /><b>They never heard of it.</b> This is not as prevalent a reason as it once was. Years ago (years and years), when I’d board a plane my seatmate would inevitably ask “What do you do?” When I’d say I was an Enneagram teacher, they’d look confused. “Any - uh-what?” I distilled my work to a one sentence explanation: that I taught a personality map that helps us understand ourselves and others.<br /><br />Things changed about 15 years ago and suddenly people would answer “Oh I’ve heard of that.” These days, half the time my seatmate will tell me his/her type and what they’ve learned. Many of them have learned it in the workplace and that is gratifying.<br /><br /><b>Reason Number Two</b><br /><b>The diagram looks weird to them</b> or they think it has to do with the occult. Once they realize that the diagram is not a pentagram, that Enneagram is just Greek for “picture of nine”, this one falls away pretty quickly. Luckily.<br /><br /><b>Reason Number Three</b><br /><b>Some one bludgeoned them with the Enneagram or “told them” their type.</b> Another dear friend of mine was frightened away from the Enneagram when his ex wife continually used it to tell him what was “wrong” with him. Sadly, those kinds of scars run deep. I wish I could say that this was an isolated incident but I’ve heard this tale of woe all too often. Some people just don’t get the point of the Enneagram. (That would be compassion - hello!)<br /><br />“Telling” someone their type or pushing the Enneagram on them can cause them to run, not walk, away from anything or anyone associated with it. I have to agree that excess enthusiasm can be a total turnoff. Also, believe me when I tell you that even if you believe that you know someone very well, you may not really know their type. The journey of self discovery is important to the work - why would we want to deprive anyone of that? Want to share the Enneagram with friends and family? Offer them a book, tell them your type and that it may help them understand you better. Believe me, they will be interested in finding their own type - on their own.<br /><br /><b>Reason Number Four</b><br /><b>Some one trivialized it and made it a parlor game.</b> That can happen with anything. Counter it by offering resources and information. Self disclosure on how it helped you might also be valid.<br />
<b><br />Reason Number Five</b><br /><b>The Enneagram is complicated.</b> That is actually true. It’s not a quick hit, but a deep, rich system of understanding and growth. As such, it may not be for everybody. It takes attention and real Work. Ah but the rewards are so worth it. To me. And you. But maybe not everyone.<br /><br /><b>Reason Number Six</b><br /><b>“I’m not sure I want to know that much about myself.”</b> Over the years, I’ve met people who quite clearly were anxious about what might be unearthed should they begin to delve more deeply into their drives and motivations. You and I might think it the most worthy of excavations, but I respect the honesty of those who weren’t ready to go there. Yet.<br /><br /><b>Reason Number Seven</b><br />
<b>There are many paths to the top of the mountain.</b> And many maps to personal and spiritual growth. The Enneagram is only one. This may be the most important reason of all. The Enneagram is not necessarily for everyone. Offering the Enneagram without attachment as to whether or not it is received may be some of the best work we do as Enneagram enthusiasts. Just sayin’...<br /><br />What reasons have you encountered for people not knowing or wishing to know the Enneagram?Lynette Sheppardhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02896463175847071518noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4455006549162031455.post-60129805922947558502011-08-27T15:27:00.000-07:002011-12-15T13:38:53.654-08:00Oh Canada! Can We Change A Country’s Type?<a href="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-Iz1mg5wSWq0/TllwLSIgJ4I/AAAAAAAABbc/27NOSzdIdBs/s1600/BC%2Bsunset.jpg"><img alt="" border="0" height="476" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5645666947033999234" src="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-Iz1mg5wSWq0/TllwLSIgJ4I/AAAAAAAABbc/27NOSzdIdBs/s640/BC%2Bsunset.jpg" style="height: 450px; width: 600px;" width="640" /></a>
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Countries have an overlay of Enneagram type; a cultural bias that informs the worldview of its citizens. The United States is a Three culture (although lately we seem solidly stuck in the low side of Six: us vs them, analysis paralysis so that nothing gets done, suspicion and paranoia, etc.)
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In a Three culture, image is important and doing is highly valued. The first question a new acquaintance will ask is “What do you do?” Americans are big on success, productivity, and looking good. This is fine unless, like an unconscious Three, we lose sight of our authentic self in the quest for success.
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Threes do well in a Three culture. As do other high energy types. Some types, however, can feel like strangers in a strange land. Fives can feel overwhelmed and unsafe. Nines can feel undervalued for their significant gifts. Twos, particularly male twos, may overdevelop a wing point to keep from being seen as weak when exercising their gifts of empathy and helping. (We’re pretty much okay with women being empathetic givers.)
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We recently visited friends in Canada. My Eight girlfriend asked me what I thought Canada was as a country and I replied Five. “Absolutely!” she declared.
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“And if you think it is hard being a female Eight - try being a female Eight in a Five culture. It’s a relief to me to travel to the US to work because I can let more of my energy out. Particularly working in a male dominated world.”
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Stories like this illustrate why it is important to look at type within countries and professions, as well as on an individual level. As self-observing leads to more conscious behavior and choice on and individual level, so might knowing the pitfalls and gifts of a country or workplace worldview lead to similar awakening and possible change.
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When we break the trance of habitual perceiving, acting, and being, only then is transformation possible. Small sacred steps might be the answer. When we open ourselves to other types, other worldviews, we have the possibility of true understanding.
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When we further allow the instincts of self-preservation, one-to-one connection, and social to be illuminated and thereby loosened in their grip upon us, we open a space for another way of being in the world.
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How do we do this? Change the worldview of a country? A profession or workplace? Maybe what we really wish to do is simply increase awareness; the same thing the Enneagram teaches each of us. I sure would welcome a little more awareness here in the U.S.A.
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A dear friend of mine, musician Christine Covington, wrote these song lyrics:
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“I can’t change the world
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Until I first change me.
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I can't change the world til I change me.”
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Self-observation and self-disclosure along with a huge helping of compassion might just be a good recipe to start. The ripples might move outward in ways we can only imagine. I’d love to hear your thoughts on how we might dream this big.
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<br />Lynette Sheppardhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02896463175847071518noreply@blogger.com7tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4455006549162031455.post-47590439546508209062011-05-30T11:49:00.000-07:002011-12-15T13:40:43.950-08:00Dancing with the Enneagram Part 2<a href="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-_ydQRPsg7N8/TePnIcE0rNI/AAAAAAAABZg/BptXz9j5_tc/s1600/IMG_5738.JPG"><img alt="" border="0" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5612583692795161810" src="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-_ydQRPsg7N8/TePnIcE0rNI/AAAAAAAABZg/BptXz9j5_tc/s400/IMG_5738.JPG" style="cursor: hand; cursor: pointer; height: 450px; width: 600px;" /></a><br />
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As a hula dancer, it has been my privilege to learn from a number of amazing Kumu Hula or hula masters. As I mentioned in Part I, I recounted how knowing the Enneagram literally saved me when learning hula from different instructors. When I had an understanding of my teacher’s worldview or inner cosmology, I was less vulnerable to misunderstanding or hurt feelings. In my last post, I shared about a Six and an Eight. Here in Part 2, you’ll meet a Five, a Three, and a Nine.<br />
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When my first hula teacher passed away unexpectedly, our group was “inherited” by a Five kumu hula - I’ll call her R. Knowing her to be a gifted but demanding teacher, we were quite literally quaking in our pa`u (hula skirts).<br />
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She didn’t disappoint us. Right out of the box, she pushed and prodded us to moves more difficult than we thought we could ever perform. R never raised her voice, but to be the recipient of “the look” of icy disapproval spurred us all to become better dancers. The party was over. And we would do anything to avoid that look. (A hula halau is really a small family. I’ve heard a number of Fives on panels remark that they can be quite bossy and controlling in the comfort of their own families.)<br />
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As we became more proficient, more shy smiles and laughter were bestowed upon us. Rarely, we got a “that was beautiful.” Our group began winning the annual competition for our age group. We were not just enjoying hula, we were becoming better dancers.<br />
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My most illustrative Five story of her is this one. We were attending Merrie Monarch, the annual hula olympics held in Hilo, Hawaii. The young girls were entered in the competition. At the conclusion of the 4 day festival, all the Kumu Hula were invited up on stage to be introduced and feted.<br />
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R runs our hula halau with her Kumu Hula sister, M, who is a Three. M does fundraising and is the front person for the group while R choreographs and trains us. When the announcer called for them to come up on stage together, up comes M... and A! A is another Kumu Hula from Molokai, who pitches in during Merrie Monarch. R would not come out nor be seen.<br />
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We dubbed her “The Invisible Kumu”, even though virtually none of my hula sisters know the Enneagram. Every year that our group participates in this festival, A comes up on stage as R. Most of the other Kumu Hula know, as do we, who R really is. No one lets the kitten out of the bag. We all respect her need for privacy and space. I’ve grown to love her dearly, although she is still reserved with all of us.<br />
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H, one of my hula teachers, is a Three. At 83 years of age, she can outbend, outsway, and outlast any of her younger students. She yells at us to “Ai ha`a. Bend lower. You look like a bunch of sticks out there dancing.”<br />
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How we look is all important to H, as it is a direct reflection on her. I have to say that she is far and away the best hula fashionista. (K, our beloved Six, used to say “Ladies, ladies. Wear anything. It’s not about what you’re wearing. It’s about the dance.) The Three would never say that.<br />
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Now hula clothes by definition are not your normal apparel. Bright colors with huge flower prints are a mainstay. Color combos range from unusual to downright startling. Often, the halau gets to help choose fabric for outfits. (Although democracy in this case can be a bad idea.)<br />
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H simply told us what we would wear after carefully choosing colors that looked good on all of us. I have to say it, we looked great. And our hour long practices often stretched into two or three hours if we were to perform. She never expects more from us than she’ll give herself. Even now.<br />
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Finally, I’ve been blessed to learn most recently from a lovely Nine. G is kind and gentle in the extreme, yet corrects us by demonstrating how the dance should appear. We learn from her by emulating. She dances with us. She may be the most graceful hula dancer I’ve seen. And I’ve seen a lot.<br />
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As for conflicts? Regarding just about anything: scheduling, clothes, you name it? “Oh,” she laughs. “I’m not good with that. Talk to S.” [our bossy hula sister who does all the scut work. Loudly.] “She’ll take care of it.”<br />
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She seems to have no favorites, loving and embracing each of us equally. She gives feedback via her iPad, videoing us and letting us watch ourselves to see what works and what doesn’t. (She’s a high tech Kumu, but it allows her to help us without criticizing.)<br />
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And speaking of favorites, which is my favorite Kumu? All of them! The Enneagram illuminates the gifts of each and helps me understand each Kumu’s point of view. Somehow, knowing the Enneagram makes me appreciate them more deeply. And I don’t take it personally when they teach me coming from their own perspectives rather than mine or one I might expect. I’d love to learn from all Nine types if I could. For now, I’ll just revel in being part of a greater dance.Lynette Sheppardhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02896463175847071518noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4455006549162031455.post-39700832835351809222011-04-24T19:51:00.000-07:002011-12-15T13:41:50.981-08:00Dancing with the Enneagram Part I<a href="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-AZOylGG8skw/TbTkIX-0QJI/AAAAAAAABXs/2HWC6_unQfk/s1600/P1140482%2Bhula%2Btopaz.jpg"><img alt="" border="0" height="300" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5599351069255942290" src="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-AZOylGG8skw/TbTkIX-0QJI/AAAAAAAABXs/2HWC6_unQfk/s400/P1140482%2Bhula%2Btopaz.jpg" style="display: block; height: 450px; margin: 0px auto 10px; text-align: center; width: 600px;" width="400" /></a><br />
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The Enneagram is such a powerful map that it can help us in nearly every aspect of our daily lives. It helps us to understand ourselves (and grow ourselves.) And it helps us understand others’ internal landscapes enough to open a space for mutual connection and compassion. In other words, we don’t take everything another says or does personally when it is simply a reflection of a different, equally valid worldview.<br />
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I’ve been dancing hula for 12 years. In that space of time, I’ve had a total of five kumu hula or hula masters teach me. The Enneagram was invaluable in honoring each of them. And it saved me from confusion, hurt, and misunderstandings that inevitably develop when we believe everyone see the world in the same way.<br />
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My first hula teacher we’ll call him “N”, was a sweet, warm Six. He coaxed and coddled us. He never yelled. He reassured us that we would not die if we performed in public by foreseeing the worst that could happen, naming it, and letting us know we’d still survive. He was the perfect teacher for a tentative beginner.<br />
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However N would not appear on video because he believed that people might get hold of it and misuse it. He was never clear quite how or why. Knowing he was a Six made it easy for me to understand how scary this might be and to just let it go, even though so many other Kumu Hula were allowing students to use new technology to reinforce learning with the understanding that they were not to share it.<br />
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Some of my hula sisters had no map for understanding and were irritable, challenging him on his rule. Which only reinforced that nothing good could come of this. Already it was causing problems.<br />
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My favorite Six story about N is this: we were invited to the opening of a sacred site that had been restored as a hula platform high on a hill overlooking our whole island. Another hula master’s halau (school) had initiated the restoration and invited a few halaus and many elders to this ceremony.<br />
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Each hula master was to chant or oli a prayer. When it came N’s turn, he blanched and said, “I can’t. I can’t chant in front of him, he’s a hula master.”<br />
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“You can do it,” I whispered. “Remember, you’re a hula master, too.” He looked startled, then walked up and delivered his chant. I think he actually “forgot” that he was an equal to the other Kumu Hula there.<br />
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I’d heard about Kumu F long before I met him. “It’s all about him,” claimed a friend. “He’s got to be the center of attention.”<br />
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The more I heard, the more I fashioned him in my mind as a Three. I was prepared.<br />
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The first evening of a week long intensive, he gathered us together. “You need to know a couple of things about me,” he said. “#1, It’s my way or the highway. #2 I tend to be blunt and to the point. Deal with it. #3 There’s no crying in hula.”<br />
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I still dance with this wonderful, strong Eight Kumu once a year. Some say he is arrogant. Perhaps, but I’d say he’s accomplished. As a historian, singer-songwriter, educator and cultural resource, even elders defer to him. (Elders in Hawai`i are the top of the food chain, just the opposite of our mainland American culture.)<br />
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Dealing with him, I didn’t take it personally when he corrected us strongly. In comparison to N, it might have seemed harsh. But he was merely being blunt and clear. Most important, I would meet his energy. There’s no crying in hula, after all.<br />
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As I knew him longer, I began to see the move to Two as a large part of him. As an Eight, he hated anyone to call attention to his loving care and attention. So I learned acceptance of his gifts without too much thank you or gushing.<br />
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My favorite Eight to Two story? He had written a poignant good-bye song for a dear friend’s death. We were to learn and perform it for the first time that week. As we practiced over and over, the energy in the room became sad and heavy. We were lost in grief as we danced.<br />
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“Okay,” he snapped. “That’s it. Go change clothes. We need a mood change - time for chocolate, coffee, and shopping. Get moving, we leave in 10 minutes.”<br />
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After our antioxidant and retail therapy, we were able to continue dancing and expressing the emotion of the song without being overwhelmed by it. Gut knowing and caretaking. Eight meets Two.<br />
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There is a Hawaii`ian proverb about hula: A`ohe pau ka `ike i ka halau ho`okahi which translates as “not all knowledge is taught in one school.” And as we Enneagram enthusiasts know: not all reality is contained in one type or worldview. When we open to other ways of perceiving and being in the world, we are expanding our experience, of ourselves and one another.<br />
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Stay tuned for Part 2 where I am lucky enough to learn hula from a Five, a Three, and a Nine.Lynette Sheppardhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02896463175847071518noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4455006549162031455.post-35478035643547372102011-03-12T17:07:00.000-08:002011-12-15T13:42:14.093-08:00Enneagram iPhone App: Know Your Type<a href="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-4Txtitf9xsM/TXwbpjcAaMI/AAAAAAAABUs/PIPR3-EPWTk/s1600/iphone%2Benneagram%2Bapp.JPG"><img alt="" border="0" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5583368038733867202" src="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-4Txtitf9xsM/TXwbpjcAaMI/AAAAAAAABUs/PIPR3-EPWTk/s400/iphone%2Benneagram%2Bapp.JPG" style="cursor: pointer; display: block; height: 400px; margin: 0px auto 10px; text-align: center; width: 214px;" /></a><br />
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Want to find the nearest sushi restaurant? There’s an app for that. Want to take credit cards using your iPhone? There’s an app for that. Want to have a quick but comprehensive reference to the <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_0">Enneagram</span>? There’s an app for that too!<br />
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<span style="font-weight: bold;">"Know Your Type" is a wonderfully designed iPhone application</span> that acts as game, learning tool, and handy reference. For 2.99, you can discover your type, learn self-development strategies, manage inter-type conflict, and so much more.<br />
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The interface is clean and easy to navigate. There are even videos of each of the nine types explaining personality from the inside.<br />
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<span style="font-weight: bold;">Developed by Ginger <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_1">Lapid</span>-<span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_2">Bogda</span>, PhD</span> (<a href="http://theenneagraminbusiness.com/index.html">The <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_3">Enneagram</span> in Business</a>), this feature rich powerhouse of an app is a must have for any <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_4">Enneagram</span> enthusiast. And if you don’t have an iPhone? It works just as well with the <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_5">iPad</span> or <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_6">iPod</span> touch. Check it out in the <a href="http://itunes.apple.com/us/app/know-your-type-the-personality/id414042460?mt=8">App Store.</a>Lynette Sheppardhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02896463175847071518noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4455006549162031455.post-86451438429214865632010-11-23T15:11:00.000-08:002011-12-15T13:42:50.512-08:00Enneagram Errors Part Deux<a href="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_KaFi8eJ0yCM/TOxLKeKJZWI/AAAAAAAABR8/urwVhs3YFvA/s1600/130%2BIMG_7370.jpg"><img alt="" border="0" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5542887884652635490" src="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_KaFi8eJ0yCM/TOxLKeKJZWI/AAAAAAAABR8/urwVhs3YFvA/s400/130%2BIMG_7370.jpg" style="cursor: pointer; display: block; height: 450px; margin: 0px auto 10px; text-align: center; width: 600px;" /></a><br />
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In the last blog entry we examined some Enneagrammatical errors that commonly affect or afflict us. Here are a few more errors that are natural and easy to fall into. With naming, a little vigilance, and some focused attention, they won’t catch us unaware.<br />
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<span style="font-weight: bold;">Enneagram Evangelism. Being Too Enthused About the Enneagram</span><br />
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If I had a nickel for every time someone told me how they were turned off completely to the Enneagram by some well meaning friend/spouse/coworker bombarding them with enneagram enthusiasm, well, I’d have a roomful of nickels. And I hate rolling those things in wrappers so I’d just have to live with them. (Yes, I live rurally and my bank’s coin sorter is rarely working.)<br />
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Seriously though, this is a real Enneagrammatical error. The horror on someone’s face when I tell them that I teach and consult with the Enneagram of personality is not feigned. Generally, I listen to their tale of Ennea trauma, offer some empathy (because they’re right, it sucks to have anything pushed on you), and hopefully get them to separate the map from the messenger.<br />
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We Enneagram enthusiasts need to be gentle in our excitement. The one best way I’ve found to open someone else to the Enneagram is this: give them an introductory book, mine, David Daniels’, Helen Palmer’s, or Baron and Wagele’s. Tell them your type: “I’m a Seven (or Eight or One or whatever your type is.) This book might help you understand me better. It’s helped me understand myself more.”<br />
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We need to restrain ourselves from commenting on their type, even if they ask. They will read the book and begin the discovery process on their own. Let them get back to you. After all, one of the best parts of the Enneagram is having a common language in which to examine our differences and similarities on our path to understanding.<br />
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<span style="font-weight: bold;">Being a Not Type</span><br />
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One of my friends who is a successful Enneagram teacher and consultant worked so very hard interrupting her passion, her Enneagram drive, that she became what she now refers to as a Not Four. Which is not the same as an evolved or self-actualizing Four.<br />
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Sure, the Enneagram gives us a choice to run our habit or passion rather than having it run us. But we need to remember that the passion IS energy. We want to avail ouselves of that energy for growth and transformation, to become our best selves.<br />
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My friend was working so hard going against her type, that she underused her type, her gifts. She realized that it’s not doing the opposite of what type first presents, but doing whatever we do with consciousness. Sometimes, Fourness is exactly what is needed. We can’t jettison our gifts; we merely need to be awake and choose right action. With practice and awareness, we can choose the gifts of all nine types, ultimately.<br />
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Sevens are not committed. Eights don’t get their feelings hurt. Ones hold grudges. Not true. These are potential manifestations of the worldviews informing Sevens, Eights, and Ones. But don’t believe everything you read.<br />
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Yes, Sevens are visionary optimists, and most enjoy beginnings more than grunt work middles. Still, I’ve known myriad Sevens who are very committed to relationships, causes, and projects. They get things done, they complete, they are monogamous.<br />
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Eights may project invulnerability coming from a worldview where “only the strong survive”. But let me tell you that I know many a tenderhearted Eight of both genders whose feelings have been bruised because of the assumption that they are touch and don’t feel pain.<br />
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Ones can certainly see things in black and white terms and become irritated when others don’t come through, aren’t honest, or don’t pull their weight. But remember that the hallmark of Oneishness is the desire to correct, to make better. I know several Ones who don’t hold grudges - because they feel that it is wrong to do so. It’s not correct.<br />
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These are just a few examples, but it is all too easy to fall into stereotyping, even when we know better. Better to ask each individual “How is this situation (feelling etc) for you?” And it works even better when you both have that common Enneagram language.<br />
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<span style="font-weight: bold;">Confusing The Map With The Territory</span><br />
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Just because we know the Enneagram type of another person does not mean we know him or her. The Enneagram is a rich and compelling map. But it is only a map. In a sense, it can be likened to our GPS devices in our cars or on our phones. It does a good job in certain known areas but it can lose its way or declare you off-road when it is unknown territory.<br />
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Each of us IS unknown territory. Our Enneagram type makes us more comprehensible to ourselves and others. It offers a map for growth both psychologically and spiritually. Still, much of our inner terrain is “off-road” even to ourselves. We are a learning in progress. We are growing ourselves.<br />
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One day, probably far in the future, it is my profound desire that we will no longer need the Enneagram map. I pray that we will connect intuitively, deeply with ourselves and others. Understanding will be like breathing and we will apprehend the true and holy territory of spiritual beings in human form. And then we might attend to other work, what I do not know.<br />
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I know, I know, it sounds like science fiction or utopia. But I can dream. In the meantime, I’ll try to use the map with delicacy and discretion, always reminding myself that there is so much more that is not known.Lynette Sheppardhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02896463175847071518noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4455006549162031455.post-18631863856932498682010-10-02T13:41:00.000-07:002011-12-15T13:43:28.455-08:00Enneagrammatical Errors: Common Enneagram Mistakes<a href="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_KaFi8eJ0yCM/TKearHc-SZI/AAAAAAAABPM/YnfN2PUy64A/s1600/tahoe+frost+3.jpg"><img alt="" border="0" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5523553533518825874" src="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_KaFi8eJ0yCM/TKearHc-SZI/AAAAAAAABPM/YnfN2PUy64A/s400/tahoe+frost+3.jpg" style="cursor: pointer; display: block; height: 450px; margin: 0px auto 10px; text-align: center; width: 600px;" /></a><br />
<span style="font-weight: bold;"><br />Once we learn the Enneagram of personality, a whole world opens up to us</span>. We discover that our perception of reality, well.. isn’t reality. It’s a mere facet, reflecting a limited worldview. We realize that we have been like the blind guys groping that elephant. The part we perceive is real enough, but we only apprehend a small part of the whole. As my teacher Helen Palmer says, each of the Enneagram types has one ninth of the truth.<br />
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<span style="font-weight: bold;">The Enneagram map helps to be vigilant</span> as to when we are falling back into what Tom Condon calls the ‘trance” of our type. We question the reality before us and try on perceptions of the other eight types in an endeavor to sense the whole Elephant, as it were.<br />
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Certainly, new worlds offered by the eight types we do not inhabit have much to teach us. Our own type illuminates much as well. Yet, we may slip into “knowing” by virtue of our Enneagram knowledge too soon. We may fall prey to <span style="font-weight: bold;">Enneagrammatical Errors.</span><br />
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Here are a couple of common ones that most of us (including me) have fallen prey to.<br />
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<span style="font-weight: bold;">Point Envy</span><br />
I’m not sure, but I”m guessing that Sevens get this one a tad more often than the other types. Thankfully, I can’t remember how many times I heard from a well meaning Enneagram enthusiast that they wished they were a type Seven. All I can say to that is “Oh no you don’t! You don’t wish you had my inside.”<br />
<span style="font-weight: bold;">Each type comes with its own set of problems and heartache, gifts notwithstanding.</span> Speaking from the Seven perspective, I can truthfully say that what looks like happiness and optimism from the outside (even felt at first from the inside) often is the manhole cover over a huge, dark sewer of pain.<br />
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And until we travel below ground through that muck, all the twists and turns through the shadow, true joy eludes us. Believe me when I say that I would not wish that horrifying journey on anyone. Except maybe a fellow Seven who’s ready to become “real.”<br />
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My friends who inhabit the other eight types of the Enneagram have their own dragons to slay on their journeys. Point Envy is natural, perhaps, but misguided. (And for more on how Envy plays out read the previous Blog Entry: An Inquiry Into Envy For All Enneagram Types) So <span style="font-weight: bold;">the next time you find yourself wishing you were a different type, count your blessings</span>. The devil you know and all that....<br />
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<span style="font-weight: bold;">Instant Typing</span><br />
People I’ve known for a couple hours when they discover I am an Enneagram teacher invariably ask “What type am I?” Well, I don’t know. and anyone who says they do is cantilevered out there a little too far.<br />
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Because <span style="font-weight: bold;">the Enneagram map describes an internally held worldview</span> and beliefs about reality, there is really no way TO know. I just give my stock (and true) answer: “No one knows how you feel inside except you. Anyone can have any trait or characteristic that we notice externally given the right situation. It’s <span style="font-weight: bold;">why </span>we exhibit that trait that illuminates the internal landscape and narrows the search for type.” It works. They get it, dare I say, instantly. Feel free to use it next time someone asks you.<br />
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The <span style="font-weight: bold;">Enneagrammatical error of instant typing </span>occurs when people actually believe that they can type others after a few hours, minutes, days. Or even, gasp, by looking at a photo. I don’t care how talented, enlightened, or how many years you’ve spent studying/teaching the enneagram, you cannot tell someone’s internal terrain just by looking at them. And if someone types you, even if they know you well? Take it with a boulder sized grain of salt and do the work yourself.<br />
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<span style="font-weight: bold;">The Enneagram is a map of internal terrain and an inner worldview, best learned by self- inquiry and self-observation.</span> True, books, classes, websites, and trained professionals can offer tools to the seeker to help them narrow down their type to break its hold. But the discovery process is an individual one, exploring oneself with the map as a instruction guide for growing oneself.<br />
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We’ll look at more enneagrammatical errors in subsequent blog posts. Some of the mistakes we’ll address will include:<br />
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Enneagram Evangelism. Being Too Enthused About the Enneagram<br />
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Being a Not Type<br />
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Stereotyping<br />
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Confusing The Map With The Territory<br />
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<span style="font-weight: bold;">Have you noticed, fallen prey to, or been the unlucky recipient of other Enneagrammatical Errors?</span> Or have a tale to tell about one of these? Leave your wisdom here in the comments; we learn by sharing.Lynette Sheppardhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02896463175847071518noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4455006549162031455.post-34138917900388901112010-08-16T14:53:00.000-07:002011-12-15T13:43:48.555-08:00An Inquiry into Envy for All Enneagram Types<a href="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_KaFi8eJ0yCM/TGm0gpoqUHI/AAAAAAAABHs/okFi-oX6dTE/s1600/IMG_2738.JPG"><img alt="" border="0" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5506130492462354546" src="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_KaFi8eJ0yCM/TGm0gpoqUHI/AAAAAAAABHs/okFi-oX6dTE/s400/IMG_2738.JPG" style="cursor: pointer; display: block; height: 400px; margin: 0px auto 10px; text-align: center; width: 267px;" /></a><br />
<span style="font-weight: bold;"><br /><br />Envy.</span> It’s an issue, indeed it is the passion or drive, for Enneagram type Four. So the rest of us don’t need to concern ourselves much with it. Or do we?<br />
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<span style="font-weight: bold;">Barbara Arney, MA</span>, presented an intriguing look into envy as a human drive that affects all the types at the recent International Enneagram Association meeting in San Francisco.<br />
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Through lecture and dyad exercises, we were able to <span style="font-weight: bold;">discover how envy plays out in our lives</span>, generally and vis a vis our Enneagram types. We learned about envying, but we explored what it is like to be envied and how disempowering that can be.<br />
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And surprisingly, we found that <span style="font-weight: bold;">envy can offer us a gift.</span> Opening to envy consciously can open us to what we thirst for in ourselves rather than looking outside for it in others.<br />
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Barbara posits that <span style="font-weight: bold;">a major underlying force of envy involves a “fierce attraction to an external good while resisting the internal good.”</span> We project (and we do not have to be Sixes to do this) our own good or desire for good onto others. When we take our inherent goodness and put it on others, we diminish ourselves.<br />
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Concurrently, when we envy someone we also diminish them by seeing only an idealized part of them rather than the complex, multifaceted being in front of us.<br />
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<span style="font-weight: bold;">There’s hope</span>, however. Whether experiencing the victimization of envy or being envied, Barbara tells us, we can avail ourselves of practices to <span style="font-weight: bold;">develop a durable relationship with the Good</span>.<br />
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Some of these practices include:<br />
<span style="font-weight: bold;">Grounding </span>in the body - dropping into sensation and relaxation.<br />
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<span style="font-weight: bold;">Centering</span> exercises to steady the mind.<br />
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<span style="font-weight: bold;">Recognizing your own reactivity</span> of envy/envied: gossip, sarcasm, withdrawal, judgment, hatred, independence.<br />
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Keep an ongoing <span style="font-weight: bold;">list of all the little fulfillments</span> in your life.<br />
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Perhaps most important is to acknowledge your desire for good that is underneath your feelings of envy.<br />
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These practices seem simple. And they are. But they are not easy and <span style="font-weight: bold;">we must be vigilant and diligent to change the patterns of envy in our lives</span>. Only then may we be able to recognize and nurture the good in ourselves.<br />
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Of course, our first step is to notice when we are envying or being envied and our reactions. <span style="font-weight: bold;">Self observation </span>will enable us to notice its effects and allow us to embody the above practices to break envy’s insidious hold.<br />
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<span style="font-weight: bold;">How, when, whom do you envy? How does envy manifest for you or your type? What are your reactions when others envy you? Let’s explore these questions together here in the comments.</span><br />
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More about Barbara Arney: She is a certified Enneagram instructor and corporate trainer/coach with the Rapid Change Group teaching brain-based tools to business. She is offering a virtual course/community called <span style="font-weight: bold;">Women’s Ways: The Power of your Passions...A September Inquiry with the Enneagram.</span> It includes conference calls each Wed. that are recorded, a centering CD, and two 30 minute coaching sessions, and more. For info, please contact Barbara directly at BarbaraA@comcast.net or on her Central time cell phone at 612-387-3399.Lynette Sheppardhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02896463175847071518noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4455006549162031455.post-33294303598885573752010-07-26T12:03:00.000-07:002011-12-15T13:44:26.959-08:00Enneagram Practice: Sometimes It’s Better To Receive<a href="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_KaFi8eJ0yCM/TE3cd4ekUSI/AAAAAAAABGk/xMrx5wrtY4w/s1600/IMG_5182+notre+dame+lil.jpg"><img alt="" border="0" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5498293126024155426" src="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_KaFi8eJ0yCM/TE3cd4ekUSI/AAAAAAAABGk/xMrx5wrtY4w/s400/IMG_5182+notre+dame+lil.jpg" style="cursor: pointer; display: block; height: 450px; margin: 0px auto 10px; text-align: center; width: 600px;" /></a><br />
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My husband, Dewitt, and I recently traveled to Europe for a combination of work and pleasure. Our first stop was France, so I dutifully brushed up on my traveler’s French, so that I could at least attempt to honor the language and culture that I was visiting.<br />
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And as my husband so aptly pointed out, one needs to be careful about speaking her piece well. Because when a French person answers you, it will be in rapid, colloquial language. And you will understand only a fraction of what you are receiving.<br />
<span style="font-weight: bold;">What has happened is that with quickie learning CD’s and the like, we’ve learned how to send a message but not necessarily how to receive it.</span> This happens oh so frequently even when speaking our own language. In our own culture. We are gifted at sending but oftentimes, we fail at receiving.<br />
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And it happens when we interact with someone who inhabits a different Enneagram type than our own. Learning about the Enneagram types gives us a quickie course in culture, language, and worldview. <span style="font-weight: bold;">But just because we might be conversant in the guidebook that the Enneagram offers, does not mean that we understand this other type, this other person.</span><br />
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<span style="font-weight: bold;">The Enneagram, when used to its fullest, is about receiving. </span>And receiving and receiving and receiving. We may be very good at sending, but sending messages does not enhance our understanding. Receiving does. Listening does. Asking for assistance in navigating and understanding another’s world does.<br />
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<span style="font-weight: bold;">Receiving requires a passive, accepting stance</span>. Culturally, in the U.S. at least, we are not educated in or applauded for taking such a stance. Ask any Nine who has had to “ramp up” to fit in to our Threeish milieu.<br />
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Here’s a practice we can all try. When next we are in communication with another whether we knew their Enneagram predilection or not, let’s just listen. Let’s experiment by trying to receive without sending. Sure, ask questions to help clarify the receiving when appropriate, but let’s just open a receptive space to experience another culture.<br />
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Let’s report back here and share how this felt. For us. <span style="font-weight: bold;">The Enneagram is not about collecting knowledge or esoterica. It IS about understanding, empathy, and experiencing another as they experience themselves</span>. I for one, look forward to the day when we no longer need the Enneagram guidebook to develop compassion and understanding, when empathy with one another will be as natural as breathing. Maybe not in my lifetime. Then again, maybe......................Lynette Sheppardhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02896463175847071518noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4455006549162031455.post-2019681131064384292010-06-09T13:21:00.000-07:002011-12-15T13:44:52.626-08:00An Enneagram Eight For A Day...Or a Nine Or a One...<a href="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_KaFi8eJ0yCM/TA_5CGGOXCI/AAAAAAAABEc/XYxEh8x3-jY/s1600/butterfly+ennea.jpg"><img alt="" border="0" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5480873085924957218" src="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_KaFi8eJ0yCM/TA_5CGGOXCI/AAAAAAAABEc/XYxEh8x3-jY/s400/butterfly+ennea.jpg" style="cursor: pointer; display: block; height: 450px; margin: 0px auto 10px; text-align: center; width: 600px;" /></a><br />
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"Can you ever switch types?" I’m frequently asked. "No" is the short answer. Our Enneagram personality home base is home base - which seems to be hardwired into us.<br />
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Still, as we grow and change, we can avail ourselves of attributes and strengths beyond the intrinsic ones of our own type. Heck, we can do it whether we know the Enneagram or not, although the map helps.<br />
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The Enneagram describes nine distinct world views. We might also envision the types as nine personality gifts, each of which illuminates a part of human potential.<br />
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Can we purposefully embody the positive traits of another type; a gift of human potential not innately our own? Can we access the appropriate attribute for a given situation, even if it is not natural or unconscious for us? Surely it is worth a try as we attempt to grow and actualize ourselves.<br />
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I remember one time when I was embarking on a business trip to teach the Enneagram to a group of women business leaders on the East Coast. My West coast flight was to leave in the early am, so I needed to catch an airport shuttle bus for the 1.5 hour ride to SFO.<br />
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Ordinarily, the bus drivers were ruthless about not waiting for latecomers or holding up departure for any reason. On this day, for unknown reasons, the driver waited for late folks he knew were coming for 5, 10, 15, 20 minutes.<br />
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This Seven slammed into One. I felt myself tighten up in my body, my teeth clenched, and I became anxious and outraged. I stopped myself and took a long hard look at my own reaction. What type might possibly have an attribute that could help me in my current situation.<br />
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I thought about my son, a go-with-the-flow Nine. How would he handle this? Well, I mused to myself, he would kick back in his comfortable, warm seat on the bus and either doze or open a book to read.<br />
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And if he missed the flight? Well, there were other flights to the East Coast, and the class wasn’t till the next day. Things just have a way of working out.<br />
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So I pretended. I acted like my Niney son. I stopped looking at my watch and started reading my book. My jaw muscles unclenched and I relaxed.<br />
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I had a most pleasant ride to the airport, got off at my stop (lateish), walked into the terminal, got my boarding pass, and walked right onto the plane since they were boarding already. (yes, it was pre 9-11.) It remains one of my favorite trip experiences.<br />
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One of my Enneagram students (a One) told me that she wanted to be more free and lusty with her husband during sexual closeness So she pretended that she was an Eight the next time they were intimate and claimed that it was the best time they’d ever had in bed.<br />
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While we can never truly “know” what it is to be another type or even to manifest the gifts in the specific flavor in which they experience themselves, we can try to expand out of our own limited Enneagram box. We may be surprised at the range we have available to us.<br />
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Have you always wanted to be a Four? A Three? A One? Try it for an afternoon or a day or in a situation where those gifts seem called for. Let us know how it works!Lynette Sheppardhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02896463175847071518noreply@blogger.com5tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4455006549162031455.post-52251787164709776672010-05-05T18:25:00.000-07:002010-05-05T18:31:34.701-07:00Is Simon Cowell An Eight? Typing Famous People<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_KaFi8eJ0yCM/S-IbPbukE-I/AAAAAAAABAc/euQi_zvHH6k/s1600/simon_800x600.jpg"><img style="display: block; margin: 0px auto 10px; text-align: center; cursor: pointer; width: 400px; height: 300px;" src="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_KaFi8eJ0yCM/S-IbPbukE-I/AAAAAAAABAc/euQi_zvHH6k/s400/simon_800x600.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5467962849536250850" border="0" /></a><br /><br />I read recently that Simon Cowell on <a href="http://www.americanidol.com/">American Idol </a>is an Eight. Because he’s blunt and brutally honest. While that indeed is a characteristic attributed to Eights, any of us can exhibit that same trait given the right set of circumstances. I acted that way myself when I was head nurse in an Intensive Care Unit. And I’m a Seven with a Six wing.<br /><br />My own best guess about Simon Cowell is that he is a Four. (I have my reasons but they don't matter.) When confronted by the host of the show, Ryan Seacrest, a few weeks ago, Simon shrunk back from the conflict, muttering that it was “uncomfortable.” Most Eights will rise to such an occasion, ready for a good battle. For the same reason, some other Enneagram aficionados believe he’s a Six.<br /><br />Really, though, I don’t know Simon Cowell. I have no idea what his Enneagram type is. I like his bluntness, wherever it comes from.<br /><br />I’ll admit it. Attempting to type famous people is fun. Think of it as an ennea exercise, practicing our understanding of the hallmarks of type. But that’s all it is.<br /><br />I am always amazed (and a little chagrined) when Enneagram enthusiasts, authors, and others claim to know definitively the type of some famous person. I know that I’ve fallen into the same trap myself in the past.<br /><br />The truth is that unless we personally know said famous person AND that they have confirmed for us their type, we have no idea of their Enneagram proclivity.<br /><br />Sure, we can see traits and characteristics. We can even feel energy, an individual’s force field, which supplies more clues as to type. But as any good Enneagram observer will tell you, we don’t know diddly about how a person truly feels inside unless s/he tells us.<br /><br />The Enneagram describes nine very different ways of perceiving, acting, and being in the world. Each of these unique viewpoints stems from an internal worldview based on a set of assumptions and beliefs about what it takes to survive and thrive. For example, the Eight worldview can be rather simplistically described as “The World is A Jungle and Only The Strong Survive.” The Nines believe the world is at its best when we are One with everything and harmony rules. And so on.<br /><br />From the outside, it is difficult if not impossible to tell another’s type. Time and again, I’ve worked with families who were conversant with the Enneagram (even Enneagram teachers) and did not realize the inner landscape of the members of their own close nuclear family. This underscores for me the best use of the Enneagram as an invitation to understanding through inquiry. “How is it for you?” we might ask, creating an open space for learning about another.<br /><br />My teachers, <a href="http://www.enneagramworldwide.com/">Helen Palmer and David Daniels</a>, conducted panels of type (as do all of us certified in the Narrative Tradition of the Enneagram). Their greatest skill (and gift) was approaching each person on a panel with the curiosity and openness of a child. Although they were “experts”, they questioned as if they had no idea what a given person of a known type might say. Hence, we continually learned more about type and individuals. By genuinely wishing to understand another’s internal terrain, they avoided typing or stereotyping vis a vis a given set of external traits.<br /><br />My son is a Nine. He knows his own internal landscape well, having learned the Enneagram at a very early age. Still, looking at him from the outside when he is working at his high pressure, high profile job, it would be tempting to see him as a Three. He exhibits the adaptability, productivity, and selling charm of a Three. But when he goes home at night, it’s back to Nine land. When he is anxious about something, he looks like the archetype of Six as he scans for danger and worst case scenario. And then he returns to home base: Nine.<br /><br />So whether we are looking at famous people or our own best friend, it’s important to remember that traits don’t make the man. Or the woman. Any of us might exhibit any trait in a given situation. WHY we do it is much more telling. And the only way we’ll know...... is to ask.Lynette Sheppardhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02896463175847071518noreply@blogger.com7tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4455006549162031455.post-15933205196811348902010-03-30T19:05:00.000-07:002010-03-30T19:19:45.600-07:00The Career Within You - Finding The Perfect Job for Your Personality<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_KaFi8eJ0yCM/S7KvZw4_bII/AAAAAAAAA8U/CEJ05vRcTmQ/s1600/career+within+yoiu.jpg"><img style="display: block; margin: 0px auto 10px; text-align: center; cursor: pointer; width: 319px; height: 400px;" src="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_KaFi8eJ0yCM/S7KvZw4_bII/AAAAAAAAA8U/CEJ05vRcTmQ/s400/career+within+yoiu.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5454614955854621826" border="0" /></a><br /><br /><br />The Career Within You - Finding The Perfect Job for Your Personality <br /><br />I’ve always loved <span style="font-weight: bold;">Elizabeth Wagele’s</span> cartoons for their insightful humor and for making the Enneagram accessible. Many of my students who were initially daunted by lengthy Enneagram tomes started their journeys with “<span style="font-style: italic;">The Enneagram Made Easy</span>”. And as we all know, once you venture into the richness of the Enneagram personality map, you’re hooked.<br /><br />Elizabeth now has a brand new book co-authored with <span style="font-weight: bold;">Ingrid Stabb</span> called “The Career Within You.” I expected to read a sort of “What Color Is Your Parachute” with an <a href="http://9points.com/">Enneagram</a> twist. And I expected the humor and heart of Liz’s cartoons. I found all this and more.<br /><br />All nine types are described succinctly with pluses and minuses and overarching motivation with particular attention to strengths brought to the workplace and needs. Wagele and Stabb break new ground with the best part of this book - their <span style="font-weight: bold;">Career Finder</span> for each of the types.<br /><br />Each type starts his/her search by rating a list of 5 strengths. Personal preference is taken into account next when the reader peruses a long list of careers and lists 4 that interest him.<br /><br />A chart next to each career weights each of the five strengths of the type - ideally you’d find something that resonates with your highest strengths that excites you.<br /><br />Last step, Step 3, shows practical considerations in these same tables. Additional ratings are given for jobs with high pay, predicted future growth area for jobs, recession proof occupations, and those with a large number of present openings. This is invaluable information, especially in our present economy.<br /><br />I decided that if the Wagele- Stabb Career Finder works that it should be able to work in reverse. I have what I consider to be the world’s best job(s) as writer, artist, health activist and enneagram blogger. I wanted to see if the Career Finder might agree. So I ranked my type Seven strengths in this order: Idealism, Seek challenge, Enthusiasm, Social networking, and Synthesizing info. I then checked for matches in the extensive jobs list. And the Career Finder.... nailed it!<br /><br />Writer (but not travel writer), <a href="http://iphonediva.com/">Artist photographer</a> (not wedding photographer or photojournalist), Human potential seminar leader (yep still doing that), <a href="http://www.menopausegoddessblog.com/">Journalist human interest or opinion</a> (e.g. blogger). Journalist hard news did not line up and indeed, I have a hard time sometimes writing my articles for <a href="http://www.examiner.com/x-32187-Menopause-Examiner">Examiner.com</a> as they want more newsy, middle of the road pieces than I tend to write as a health activist.<br /><br />The point here is that the Career Finder is complex and varied enough to be of real value and help to anyone who is job hunting whether it is her first venture into the workplace or a midlife change in career.<br /><br />The book finishes up with a chapter entitled Fundamentals to Look for in Your Work Situation and a wonderfully laid out Job Hunting Guide. Interspersed throughout this terrific book are real life stories that illustrate the nuances of career and job seeking that are so critical to finding satisfying work.<br /><br />This book is a must read for anyone contemplating a job search as well as for those of us who sometimes get lost in asking the question “Is this the right career for me? Why do I do what I do, again?” Just the practice of looking backward has invigorated me and validated my choices. Turned out <span style="font-style: italic;">The Career Within You</span> was an inspirational text as well! Who knew?<br /><br />To order your copy from Amazon.com, click <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Career-Within-You-Perfect-Personality/dp/0061718610/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1270000898&sr=8-1">here</a> or visit your local bookstore.Lynette Sheppardhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02896463175847071518noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4455006549162031455.post-69359098608025354392010-02-18T18:02:00.000-08:002010-02-18T18:13:55.400-08:00Enneagram Speaking Styles: Get Your Message Across<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_KaFi8eJ0yCM/S33ze15WGyI/AAAAAAAAA3s/ARMtlVFWzko/s1600-h/IMG_0486.JPG"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 300px; height: 400px;" src="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_KaFi8eJ0yCM/S33ze15WGyI/AAAAAAAAA3s/ARMtlVFWzko/s400/IMG_0486.JPG" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5439771636122655522" /></a><br /><br /><br />According to a famous study, people are more afraid of public speaking than they are of death. Whether we have to speak to a work group or a professional association or a large crowd, many of us are anxious about speaking. And as we know, when we are stressed, we may “stomp on” or exaggerate our point (type.). And in the process, lose the point... of our talk. Knowing our Enneagram speaking style can help us avoid the trouble areas of our own type and get out of the way of the message we want to deliver.<br /><br />Each Enneagram type has a “default” style of communicating, particularly when speaking to a group or audience. We certainly have the ability to access styles other than our default when we are conscious and aware. However, when we go on auto, when our personality runs us rather than we run our personality, we fall into our default method of communicating with its strengths and its pitfalls. We naturally would like to maximize our strengths and minimize the pitfalls that will cause our message to be misinterpreted or not heard at all. <br /><br />It is also helpful if we can expand our communication talents to include those of the other Enneagram types. When we can avail ourselves of different ways of communicating, we have the option of matching the style to the appropriate situation or group. All nine styles work well in given situations. We don’t want to be limited to our personality’s “default” mode, when another style may work better. Let’s examine the speaking styles of each of the nine Enneagram types.<br /><br /><span style="font-weight:bold;">Speaking Styles: Pitfalls and Strengths</span><br /><br /><span style="font-weight:bold;">Type One - The Perfectionist</span><br /><span style="font-weight:bold;"><br />Speaking Style: Sermonizing</span><br /><br />Strengths - honesty, integrity, doing it well, getting it right, detail oriented. Want to be good.<br /><br />Pitfalls - can preach or sermonize (because its right!), can get so lost in the details that lose your listeners or don’t ever do a speech because it isn’t right yet. Can be inadaptable so never change your message for fear it will be wrong. <br /><br />Recommendations<br />Be in service of the message rather than in being right. Know when it is good enough. Don’t preach or sermonize, there really is more than one right answer; they’ll turn you off if you preach, anyway.<br /><br /><br /><br /><span style="font-weight:bold;">Type Two - the Giver</span><br /><br /><span style="font-weight:bold;">Speaking Style: Warmth</span><br /><br />Strengths - empathy, a caring compassionate bent, orientation toward relationship and service. Ability to connect quickly.<br /><br />Pitfalls - pride in all of the above, I am giving you so much so be grateful. Over-emoting. Get lost in the emotional stories and lose the audience. Shape shifting to be liked - can seem wishy washy.<br /> <br />Recommendations<br />Humility - these folks were doing ok before you got here. Give the best you have to offer without attachment. Use stories in service of the message. True empathy involves knowing when to back off. Just because you believe you know what they need doesn’t mean they want it.<br /><br /><span style="font-weight:bold;">Type Three - the Performer<br />Speaking Style: Convincing</span><br />Strengths - ability to sense what the audience wants and shift/change message so it will be heard. Can sell anything. Charming and facile. Quick. Inspirational. Usually very good on stage.<br /><br />Pitfalls - may not have own message. May be strong on style and low on content or actual message. May seem too slick, too polished. Audience doesn’t trust. Can cut corners and slide through. Pretend to know more than do.<br /><br />Recommendations <br />Be clear on your message, don’t cut corners but learn your topic well. Figure out where you stand so don’t lose self in trying to be successful at speaking. Give credit to others.<br /><br /><br /><br /><span style="font-weight:bold;">Type Four - the Romantic</span><br /><span style="font-weight:bold;">Speaking Style: Lamenting</span><br /><br />Strengths - Unique point of view, dramatic, often very skilled on platform in delivery, sensitive and creative. emotional.<br /><br />Pitfalls - can be overly dramatic, can be so attached to uniqueness that audience doesn’t relate, speaking style of lamenting. Can be lost in emotion and lose audience like the Two.<br /> <br />Recommendations <br />Use drama to accentuate your points; if it doesn’t enhance the message, get rid of it. Ask others you trust if too much drama, emotionality that are not in service of the message. Be wary of separating yourself from the audience - unique so they could never hope to be like you. <br /><br /><span style="font-weight:bold;"><br />Type Five - the Observer</span><br /><span style="font-weight:bold;">Speaking Style: Dissertation</span><br /><br />Strengths - depth of knowledge about a topic, often are the expert in what they speak on, ability to observe acutely and describe well, superb humor - often dry, well read - will probably know what all others have said/written on the subject. Can systematize information well.<br /><br />Pitfalls - Can have speaking style of dissertation. Can quote everybody and not reference self, can seem detached or not present, may withhold information. May give too much information and wander the labyrinths of the mind.<br /><br />Recommendations<br />Watch for quoting too many, too much: as Plato said, as Clinton once said. Quote yourself - put yourself in it. Pare down information to what really serves the message; not everyone wants to explore it in the depth that you do. Be present while speaking. Use observing and humor skills. Simplify.<br /><br /><br /><span style="font-weight:bold;">Type Six - the Loyal Skeptic</span><br /><span style="font-weight:bold;">Speaking Style: “Shotgun” or Apologetic</span><br /><br />Strengths - loyalty, duty to people or a cause, especially underdogs; healthy skepticism, can sense hidden agendas, prefers group to spotlight often. Antiauthoritarian.<br /> <br />Pitfalls - doubt own message so unclear, push cause down others throat, can be overly pessimistic: doom and gloom if you don’t change, senses hidden motives and danger where there are none. Can use shock techniques due to ambivalence toward authority. Talking in short shotgun blasts.<br /><br />Recommendations<br />See yourself in service to the underdog cause of the message. That means clearly defining what the message is. Don’t try to shock or bring out listener’s true feelings. Slow down speech,. Highlight an optimistic feature. Don’t push causes - illuminate them.<br /><br /><span style="font-weight:bold;"><br />Type Seven - the Optimist</span><br /><span style="font-weight:bold;">Speaking Style: Enthusiastic storyteller</span><br /><br />Strengths - Storytelling, humor, optimism. Great reframers - of everything. Upbeat high energy people who emphasize work etc. as fun. Can draw parallels and similarities between very unlike things. Adventurous, enjoy life to the fullest. <br /><br />Pitfalls - Can become too attached to own stories, can make a story out of a mundane trip to the post office which may not be relevant. May seem pollyannaish to audience, so won’t trust you. Overemphasis on fun may lose audience. Can be dilettantish - know a little about everything, but not a lot about any one thing. Can use too much humor. <br /><br />Recommendations <br />learn topic really well - don’t get distracted by other things. Use humor and stories in service of the message. Don’t reframe everything - take a beat first. Insert a little downside, then the plan to deal with it. Be sure the parallels and connections you make are relevant and helpful.<br /><br /> <br /><span style="font-weight:bold;">Type Eight - the Boss</span><br /><span style="font-weight:bold;">Speaking Style: Commanding</span><br /><br />Strengths - clear direct, straightforward. Forceful. Able to communicate message by sheer will. Honest and just. What you see is what you get. Good at direction - inspires by sheer will. Large energy and presence. Instinctual knowing - from the gut. Clarity.<br /><br />Pitfalls - Too in your face - pushy, bull in the china shop. Too attached to my truth is the Truth and there is no room for any argument. Too little backup information. I know from my gut. <br /><br />Recommendations<br />Filter speech through heart and mind. Consider impacts of speaking, recommendations, etc. Recognize dissenting points of view - and allow them. Do homework to back up instinctual knowledge and flesh it out.<br /><br /><span style="font-weight:bold;"><br />Type Nine - the Mediator</span><br /><span style="font-weight:bold;">Speaking Style: Epic, Conciliatory</span><br /><br />Strengths - Able to see all points of view and hold them equally. Merges with audience energetically - we are all one. Non-threatening, comfortable. Easygoing charm. <br /><br />Pitfalls - Epic nine way of speaking where extraneous details and unimportant info cloud the message. The speech has no point, holds all points of view without a conclusion. Can have laconic way of speaking that puts people to sleep. Passive verbage may lose people - e.g. “ how leadership happens to you”. Won’t compute to rest of us. <br /><br />Recommendations<br />Define the point of the message and be clear about it. Be careful of the tendency toward passive verbage. Don’t fall asleep on stage - go on automatic. Beware of epics - keep coming back to the point. We don’t need the whole story.<br /><br />Remember, no matter which of the nine types is your Enneagram type or dominant speaking style, if you get lost in your own story (personality), you’ll lose 9/10’s of your listeners. If you speak from your strengths or gifts and allow these to serve the message, they’ll hear you.Lynette Sheppardhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02896463175847071518noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4455006549162031455.post-23576107055796589462010-01-17T15:46:00.000-08:002010-01-17T15:50:24.826-08:00U.S.A.: Has a Three Culture Moved to Six?<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_KaFi8eJ0yCM/S1Oh3qzc5_I/AAAAAAAAAzY/9HomuR1_NBs/s1600-h/photo.jpg"><img style="margin: 0px auto 10px; display: block; text-align: center; cursor: pointer; width: 400px; height: 292px;" src="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_KaFi8eJ0yCM/S1Oh3qzc5_I/AAAAAAAAAzY/9HomuR1_NBs/s400/photo.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5427859953666549746" border="0" /></a><br /><br />Most Enneagram experts have identified the United States as a Threeish culture. We as a nation believe in success, productivity, and the power of image. Our cosmology could be summed up in two of our more successful ad campaigns: Nike’s “Just Do It” and Canon’s “Image is Everything.” As a whole, we ‘ve traditionally been an upbeat, can-do country, if a little too self-absorbed and self-congratulatory.<br /><br />These days, however, the USA looks much more Sixish, boomeranging between counterphobic and phobic, fearful of just about everything. We could blame the press (which has always been counterphobic) or the 24-7 “entertain-news” on television.<br /><br />We could foist responsibility on eight years of a counterphobic Sixish administration advocating certainty as an admirable leadership trait or a distinct “us vs them” philosophy in dealing with other nations, cultures, or religions.<br /><br />We could point to the shock of 9-11 as the beginning of our move from Three to Six. All of these may indeed be factors. However, it is likely that there is more to it.<br /><br />Six is not the stress point for Three; that would be Nine. Still we can access the high or low side of any of the points available to us: heart, stress, and wings. And right now the U.S. seems solidly in the low side of Six.<br /><br />We citizens have become cynical and pessimistic. We don’t believe our government officials are trustworthy. And we look for every opportunity to debunk them as authority. We are similarly disillusioned with our free market and private enterprise given the recent meltdown of our economy.<br /><br />The government itself suffers from analysis paralysis and very little seems to get done. (Although we may actually get health care reform......)<br /><br />When I talk with friends and acquaintances of any political leanings, they profess fear of change and fear of the status quo in the same breath. When I ask what we as a nation should do in any given situation, they blink like deer in the headlights or reiterate what is wrong with any idea put forth by government, private enterprise, or pundits.<br /><br />We are lost in an “us vs them” mentality, both abroad and here at home. It’s the U.S. against jihadists and those who won’t stand with us. It’s naturalized citizens vs illegal (and sometimes legal) immigrants. It’s Republican vs Democrat and liberal vs conservative. And we are not even civil in our debate or certainty.<br /><br />Does the U.S. need to return to its former Threeness to recover? Perhaps not. We might be able to avail ourselves of the high side of Six for starters. The ability to unite and work tirelessly for a cause, loyalty to a higher purpose, trouble shooting to avoid pitfalls while moving ahead toward an ideal worth manifesting, egalitarian acceptance of others, and a deep understanding of the strength in numbers that can bring us all together.<br /><br />Has America lost its Three overlay? Are we solidly in the Six worldview? Is there a prescription for what ails us and what might it be? I’d love to hear your thoughts.Lynette Sheppardhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02896463175847071518noreply@blogger.com6tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4455006549162031455.post-91450120637596258322009-12-30T13:51:00.001-08:002009-12-30T14:35:48.402-08:00Finding Enneagram Type Via Hallmark Characteristics Part III<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_KaFi8eJ0yCM/SzvUM14NnrI/AAAAAAAAAxg/eOQO5mjSb9U/s1600-h/IMG_7235.JPG"><img style="margin: 0px auto 10px; display: block; text-align: center; cursor: pointer; width: 300px; height: 400px;" src="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_KaFi8eJ0yCM/SzvUM14NnrI/AAAAAAAAAxg/eOQO5mjSb9U/s400/IMG_7235.JPG" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5421159893556895410" border="0" /></a><br /><span style="font-size:100%;">In this post, we continue our look at the hallmark characteristics of Enneagram types Seven, Eight, and Nine.</span><span style="font-weight: bold;font-size:180%;" ><span style="font-size:100%;"><br /><br /></span>Type Seven - The Optimist</span><br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">Characteristics</span><br /><br />º Sustaining high levels of excitement, many activities, many interesting things to do<br />º Endless possibilities - can lead to dilettantism<br />º Feel trapped without multiple options or way out<br />º Life is about fun and adventure - sampling all of it<br />º Avoidance of pain or difficulty<br />º Reframe any negative into a positive<br />º Replacement of deep contact with pleasant mental alternatives. Talking, planning, intellectualizing.<br />º Charm as first line of defense. Fear type who moves toward people.<br />º Equalizing authority<br />º Make unusual connections between unrelated ideas<br /><br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">Hallmark Characteristic</span><br />The hallmark or defining characteristic of an Optimist Seven is that of reframing any negative into a positive. Sevens see the good in everything, often to their own detriment. They focus on the silver lining and miss the fact that the dark cloud exists. Even trauma and tragedy are reframed into good learning experiences or humorous stories. “Yes, my dad beat me, but what was good about it was......”<br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;font-size:180%;" >Type Eight -The Straight Shooter</span><br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">Characteristics</span><br /><br />º Control of personal space, possessions, and people likely to influence Eight’s life.<br />º Aggression and open expression of anger<br />º Action before thinking, impulsive.<br />º Concern with justice and protection of others<br />º Sparring as way of making contact - trust those who can hold their own in a fight.<br />º Excess as antidote to boredom. Too much exercise, work, partying, etc.<br />º Difficulty in recognizing dependent aspects of self<br />º All or nothing way of seeing world. Weak or strong, fair or unfair,etc.<br />º Impatience with indecision, inaction.<br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">Hallmark Characteristic</span><br />The hallmark or defining characteristic of Eight is bigger-than-life energy. Regardless of physical stature, Straight Shooters just seem to take up a lot of space. This larger-than-life quality manifests as abundant, even excessive energy. Eights seem able to do more, for longer periods than the rest of us. Oddly enough, the Straight Shooter himself often doesn’t recognize that he takes up more space than others, or even that he has more energy. Yet, everyone else around him is all too aware. If the characteristics and worldview sound familiar to you, but you are unsure about the hallmark, elicit the perception of family, coworkers, and friends to find out if they see you as “larger-than-life”.<br /><br /><span style="font-size:180%;"><span style="font-weight: bold;">Type Nine - the Mediator</span></span><br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">Characteristics</span><br /><br />º Go with the flow. Merging with others, universe<br />º Self- forgetting: laziness toward own needs, priorities, agenda<br />º Trouble with decisions: do I agree or disagree? Do I want to<br /> be here or not?<br />º Containment of physical energy and anger<br />º Replace essential needs with non-essential substitutes - the most important things are left until the end of the day<br />º Act through habit and repeating familiar solutions<br />º Control through stubbornness and passive-aggressive behavior<br />º Numbing out. Inertia. Go on automatic pilot<br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">Hallmark Characteristic</span><br />The Nine Mediator often overlooks or “forgets” her own agenda, desires, and priorities. The underlying drive of sloth leads the Nine to go with the flow rather than work to determine what s/he really wants or needs. Nine’s adopt or merge with the preferences and desires of other people. It’s easier than trying to discover his/her own agenda and priorities, which seem to be hidden or unclear. Although, this can seem similar to the stance of the Two Giver, it differs in that Nine Mediators merge indiscriminately with others. It just “happens.” Two Givers are very selective and choose the people whose priorities they may make their own. The Two stance is very active and moves toward others, while the Nine is more passive, allowing them to “go along with” others. As with all the characteristics for all Nine types, self-forgetting can get to be a habit.<br /><br />When trying to determine Enneagram type, it can be helpful to focus on Hallmark Characteristics rather than getting lost in the whole enchilada of characteristics and traits. With attention and self-observation, the discovery of type is a profound journey -that takes as long as it takes.Lynette Sheppardhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02896463175847071518noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4455006549162031455.post-16615753567454055172009-12-10T13:36:00.000-08:002009-12-10T13:47:48.315-08:00Finding Enneagram Type Via Hallmark Characteristics Part II<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_KaFi8eJ0yCM/SyFsRAySETI/AAAAAAAAAvo/0BsnJ01CoEI/s1600-h/IMG_7473.JPG"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 300px; height: 400px;" src="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_KaFi8eJ0yCM/SyFsRAySETI/AAAAAAAAAvo/0BsnJ01CoEI/s400/IMG_7473.JPG" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5413727266600522034" /></a><br /><br /><br />In this blog entry, we continue the exploration of the Hallmark characteristics of type for Types Four, Five, and Six.<br /><br /><span style="font-weight:bold;">Type Four - The Romantic<br /><br />Characteristics</span><br /><br /> º Idealization of the distant, dissatisfaction with present reality<br /> º Sense of something missing from life - others have it.<br /> º Attachment to melancholy; deep feelings are more <br /> important than mere happiness.<br /> º Search for authenticity.<br /> º Affinity with intense in life: birth, death, etc.<br /> º Sense of being different than others, unique, special.<br /> º Desire for emotional intensity - wants to be met emotionally.<br /> º Attraction to beauty, strong aesthetic sense.<br /> º Mood, manners, luxury, good taste as external boosts to <br /> self-esteem.<br /><br /><br /><span style="font-weight:bold;">Hallmark Characteristic</span><br />The hallmark or defining characteristic for the Romantic is the pervasive sense of something vital missing from his/her life. The Four doesn’t know what is missing, just that it is essential to her completeness. At different times, the Romantic may decide that the missing piece is a job or a person, even a place. S/he will fixate on this desired object, often until it becomes attainable, then discard it or feel dissatisfied when the feeling of “something missing” still remains.<br /><br /><span style="font-weight:bold;">Type Five - the Observer<br /><br />Characteristics</span><br /><br /> º Privacy<br /> º Maintaining non-involvement, withdraw and tighten<br /> the belt as first line of defense.<br /> º Delayed emotions. Feelings withheld until safely alone<br /> º Compartmentalizing of time commitments in life.<br /> º Wanting predictability - to know what will happen.<br /> º Overvaluing self-control. “Drama is for lesser beings”<br /> º Interest in special knowledge and systems<br /> º Mental clarity, detachment from emotional bias<br /><br /><span style="font-weight:bold;"><br />Hallmark Characteristic</span><br />The hallmark or defining characteristic of the Five Observer is detachment. The ability to disengage may be activated by a social event, a family discussion, a presentation or performance, or any interaction. Many Fives actually describe a separate “Observer self” located above or just behind him that watches him interact or perform. This keeps the Five from being overwhelmed by people, emotions, or other stimuli.<br /><br /> <br /><span style="font-weight:bold;">Type Six - the Loyal Skeptic<br /><br />Characteristics</span><br /><br /> º Scan environment for clues that explain inner sense of threat<br /> º Intuitive style of powerful imagination and single-pointed <br /> attention, both natural to the fearful mind.<br /> º Authority problems - distrust<br /> º Identification with underdog causes<br /> º Issues with incompletion - success is exposure to danger<br /> º Suspicious of others’ motives: bullshit detectors<br /> º Skepticism and doubt<br /> º Analysis paralysis - thinking replaces doing<br /> º Heightened fear when things are going well - when’s the other <br /> shoe going to drop?<br /> <br /><span style="font-weight:bold;"><br />Hallmark Characteristic</span><br />The hallmark of the Loyal Skeptic involves seeing the downsides or dangers, almost immediately, whether it involves visualizing a worst case scenario in graphic detail or ferreting out hidden motives. While the reactions may differ: the Phobic or Flight Six may be fearful and avoiding danger while the Counterphobic or Fight Six may jump in with both feet to prove s/he can overcome potential pitfalls, both will have imagined the worst case. In the case of hidden motives, the Phobic Six may be watchful and wary while the Counterphobic Six will confront, poking and prodding to get the true colors shown.Lynette Sheppardhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02896463175847071518noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4455006549162031455.post-15946140263920944442009-11-24T18:47:00.000-08:002009-11-24T18:56:19.750-08:00Finding Enneagram Type Via Hallmark Characteristics<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_KaFi8eJ0yCM/Swyct6XbRcI/AAAAAAAAAro/VCnki2l4Cyo/s1600/blue+butterfly.jpg"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 400px; height: 295px;" src="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_KaFi8eJ0yCM/Swyct6XbRcI/AAAAAAAAAro/VCnki2l4Cyo/s400/blue+butterfly.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5407869565140682178" /></a><br /><br />It can be baffling when one is trying to determine his/her Enneagram type. We try to find ourselves in the lists of characteristics. Some fit from all of the types, others don’t fit at all. How can we sift through the information and find our home base vis a vis the Enneagram?<br /><br />First of all, we do not have to exhibit all the characteristics of type for that to be our type. The Enneagram describes an internal terrain, a world view. Still, initially we may have more success in narrowing our search for type by finding what characteristics resonate rather than seeing our worldview. Our worldview is so much a part of our Enneagram filter that we might not see it at all until we have had ample time for self-observation.<br /><br />All characteristics do not have the same weight or importance, when describing Enneagram type. Listening to numerous panels and self-aware exemplars of Type, I’ve noted what I call a Hallmark characteristic for each of the Nine types. While it can be helpful to look at lists of characteristics; the Hallmark seems to be the Big Dog. Finding the Hallmark characteristic might help you (or your family, friends, and cohorts) to discover type more easily.<br /><br />With that in mind, here is a partial list of characteristics plus the Hallmark characteristic for Types One, Two, and Three.<br /><br /><span style="font-weight:bold;">Type One - The Perfectionist</span><br /><br />Characteristics<br /><br /> º Compulsive need to act on what seems correct<br /> º One right way, black and white thinking<br /> º Relentless stream of self-criticizing thoughts<br /> º Mentally comparing oneself to others and concern<br /> about criticism<br /> º Belief in one’s own moral and ethical superiority<br /> º Procrastination stemming from fear of making a<br /> mistake<br /> º Do-gooder. Do what “should” be done rather than<br /> what one wants to.<br /> º Trapdoor phenomenon - pleasure escape valve<br /> º Scorched Earth policy - scrap whole project and start over if even one small part is wrong.<br /><br />In the case of the Perfectionist One, the hallmark or defining characteristic is the relentlessness of the inner critic. Many Ones describe it as a critical Voice that constantly evaluates, judges, and harangues the Perfectionist. Some Ones are critical of other people, other Ones keep their critical thoughts to themselves. Regardless, every Perfectionist seems to suffer from an ongoing, internal critique through nearly every minute of every day.<br /><br /><span style="font-weight:bold;"><br />Type Two - The Giver</span><br /><br />Characteristics<br /><br /> º Gaining approval and avoiding rejection<br /> º Pride in importance of oneself in relationship: “they’d never make it without me”. Being indispensable<br /><br /> º Pride in knowing and meeting others needs<br /> º Giving to get - the hook.<br /> º Confusion in identifying personal needs.<br /> º Altering self to please others<br /> º Making a difference to others lives, the world, etc.<br /> º Hysteria or anger when emerging real needs collide<br /> with the needs of the others that one serves.<br /><br /><br />The defining characteristic for the Giver Two is the need to become central, even indispensable to another “chosen” individual. One Two went so far as to explain, “It’s almost as if I establish my center in the person I am interested in being important to.” Whether in work, friendship, or intimate relationships, the Giver believes that those significant to him/her would never make it without the Giver’s help or support. The unconscious drive of Pride underlies the Two’s sense that s/he alone knows what the significant other needs, and s/he will provide it. <br /><br /><span style="font-weight:bold;">Type Three - The Performer</span><br /><br />Characteristics<br /><br /> º Goal is everything.<br /> º Efficiency<br /> º Competition and avoidance of failure<br /> º Love comes from what you do rather than who you are<br /> º Feelings suspended until job gets done<br /> º Presentation of image that’s adjusted to gain approval.<br /> º Multitasking - do several things at once<br /> º Run over others to get to goal, apologize later<br /><br /> <br />The defining characteristic of a Performer is excessive identification with his image or that which he produces: “I am my image” or “I am what I do.” The feeling that underneath the image or productivity is a “black hole” of nothing is the hallmark of a Three. The Three believes that he has sold us a package of goods: himself. Fearing that he is nothing but a fraud, the Performer must keep doing, producing, selling, dazzling to keep from being found out.<br /><br />These are the hallmarks as I’ve heard them described. Let me know if this resonates for you, if you already know your type. We learn more about type through self inquiry, self observation, and subsequent sharing of insights gleaned through these processes.<br /><br />I’ll be sharing characteristics and Hallmarks for the other six types in upcoming blog entries.<br /><br />(material adapted from The Everyday Enneagram book.)Lynette Sheppardhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02896463175847071518noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4455006549162031455.post-44815025943653114912009-10-18T11:59:00.000-07:002009-10-18T12:05:39.891-07:00Mountain Highs and Lows Enneagram Style<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_KaFi8eJ0yCM/Sttl2x-ul0I/AAAAAAAAAow/88SgqDJ07fw/s1600-h/mountain.jpg"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 400px; height: 279px;" src="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_KaFi8eJ0yCM/Sttl2x-ul0I/AAAAAAAAAow/88SgqDJ07fw/s400/mountain.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5394016970510079810" /></a><br /><br />Every summer I migrate to a mountain town situated on a stunning alpine lake. A town, community, or region will exhibit its own overlay of Enneagram type and my warm weather home is no different. I move from my Niney home in <a href="http://www.molokai-hawaii.com/">Molokai</a>, Hawaii to Sevenish <a href="http://www.tahoeinfo.com/">South Lake Tahoe</a>.<br /><br />It’s a bit of a culture shock when I first arrive. The people are chatty, perky, and almost unbearably upbeat. I AM a Seven, but it still is hard for me. I’ve settled so deeply into my Nine home where people don’t talk a lot, don’t care what you do, and like to just hang out, eat, and enjoy music. <br /><br />There are multiple activities, parties, and events. Rarely does a day pass without an invitation or five. And if you hire someone to build, repair, or do something? Or commit to attending your event? Well, they may or may not make it. In this recreational paradise, the siren song of something better to do is always exerting a pull.<br /><br />It is so prevalent that locals have a phrase for it: they call it “getting Tahoed” when people don’t show up as scheduled. It’s frustrating but in true Seven fashion, it is just reframed in a more positive light as one of the costs of living in outdoor recreation heaven.<br /><br />Contrast this mountain town with <a href="http://www.aspenchamber.org/">Aspen</a>, Colorado - Threeish mecca of movie stars, moguls, and millionaires. The first time I went to Aspen, I met no fewer than four beauty queens in the first two hours. Names were dropping like snowflakes. Everyone had predicates up the kazoo and no one was shy about letting you know who they were. I can’t remember when I’ve seen so many beautiful, seemingly accomplished people in one place. It was glittery, exciting, and utterly exhausting.<br /><br />At least, Tahoe and Aspen know who they are for now. There is tension when a town begins to morph or change into a new Enneagram style. Some years ago, I was asked to do a book signing in <a href="http://www.sunvalley.com/SunValley/Index.aspx">Sun Valley</a>, Idaho. Like Aspen and Tahoe, this small mountain town is a hiking and skiing paradise. <br /><br />The day after the book signing, I taught an all day Enneagram class to a group of Sun Valley residents. We began discussing the Enneagram styles of towns and regions. There was a distinct split among the old-timers and the folks relatively new to the area. Those who’d lived there fifteen or more years decried the changes in their community from a “fun-loving, anything goes” attitude to a more “status conscious, flashy” demeanor.<br /><br />The newcomers thought it was just “hip” and “cool”, even “special”. They loved that big stars now acted in the local theatre and that people found it a “destination”. Yet they began to see how change was chafing at some and that Sun Valley was experiencing growing pains. While the old-timers began to acknowledge that not all of the growth was bad.<br /><br />Knowing the pluses and minuses of our own Enneagram styles helps us navigate and grow ourselves. Ditto for the regions we live in whose Enneagram overlay affects us in ways we may not realize when unconscious of their impacts. As we become more aware, we are less likely to fall prey to the downsides or lows of our own Enneagram types and of the overlays of the regions in which we live. And we can celebrate the gifts or highs of the same.Lynette Sheppardhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02896463175847071518noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4455006549162031455.post-58783795884677014102009-10-11T11:50:00.000-07:002009-10-11T12:05:20.856-07:00Songlines of the Enneagram<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_KaFi8eJ0yCM/StIqRFQupwI/AAAAAAAAAnw/Dh5f6hBhfeU/s1600-h/enneagram+symbol+w+music.jpg"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 227px; height: 226px;" src="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_KaFi8eJ0yCM/StIqRFQupwI/AAAAAAAAAnw/Dh5f6hBhfeU/s400/enneagram+symbol+w+music.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5391418176874391298" /></a><br />I was teaching the Enneagram to a group of military wives (amazing, strong women) at Pearl Harbor some years ago. As usually happens, most could relate to many of the types. Still one or two of the Enneagram points are unknown territory initially. One woman (self-identified as a One) could not understand the melancholy of Four. “I just don’t get it; how someone can feel that way and not want to get over it.” <br /><br />Her best friend finally turned to her and said, “You know how you like to listen to country western music and weep, and you don’t want to be cheered up? It’s like that.” <br /><br />“Oh,” she breathed.<br /><br />Music resonates in a deep place within us. Song lyrics can illuminate type while the musical styling gives us another way to experience one of the nine worldviews. I recommend songs to my clients and students as one way in to begin understanding each of the.Enneagram types. Here are a few songlines that offer just a hint of the internal terrains.<br /><br /><span style="font-weight:bold;">Point One - The Perfectionist</span><br /><br />“Nothin’ but a big bunch of nothin’<br />Drivin’ me insane.<br />Cause there ain’t no voice that’s louder<br />Than the one inside my brain.<br /><br />Hey you go on<br />Go on and let me be<br />Quit hollerin’ at me<br />Quit hollerin’ at me<br />Sweet serenity<br />Quit hollerin’ at me.”<br /><br />Song: Quit Hollerin’ At Me<br />Artist: John Prine<br /><br /><br /><span style="font-weight:bold;">Point Two - The Giver</span><br /><br />“You just call out my name<br />And you know wherever I am<br />I’ll come running to see you again.<br /><br />Winter, Spring, Summer, or Fall<br />All you have to do is call<br />And I’ll be there, yes I will<br />You’ve got a friend.”<br /><br />Song: You’ve Got a Friend<br />Artists: James Taylor / Carol King<br /><br /><br /><span style="font-weight:bold;">Point Three - The Performer</span><br /><br />“I’ve proved who I am so many times<br />In magnetic strips worn thin<br />And each time I was someone else<br />And everyone was taken in.<br /><br />I never knew what you all wanted<br />So I gave you everything<br />All that I could pillage<br />All the spells that I could sing.”<br /><br />Song: Pacing the Cage<br />Artist: Jimmy Buffett<br /><br /><br /><span style="font-weight:bold;">Point Four - The Romantic</span><br /><br />“So the next time you see me drowning<br />In that quicksand up to my neck.<br />Before you grab my hand to save me<br />Why don’t you ask me if I’m finished yet.<br /><br />But if I truly want to be happy<br />I can pray for that missing piece<br />To the break in the cup that holds love<br />Inside of me.”<br /><br />Song: Break In The Cup<br />Artist: David Wilcox<br /><br /><br /><span style="font-weight:bold;">Point Five - The Observer</span><br /><br />“Safely from my window<br />To the streets below<br />I touch no one and no one touches me.<br /><br />I am a rock. I am an island.<br />And a rock feels no pain.<br />And an island never cries.”<br /><br />Song: I Am A Rock<br />Artists: Simon and Garfunkel<br /><br /><br /><span style="font-weight:bold;">Point Six - the Loyal Skeptic</span><br /><br />“Oh the first days are the hardest days<br />Don’t you worry anymore.<br />‘Cause when life looks like easy street,<br />There is danger at your door.”<br /><br />Song: Uncle John’s Band<br />Artists: The Grateful Dead<br /><br /><br /><span style="font-weight:bold;">Point Seven - The Optimist</span><br /><br />“Visions of good times that<br />brought so much pleasure<br />Makes me want to go back again...<br /><br />I can’t look back for too long.<br />There’s just too much to see <br />Waiting in front of me<br />And I know that I just can’t go wrong.<br /><br />With these changes in latitudes, changes in attitudes.<br />Nothing remains quite the same.<br />With all of my running<br />And all of my cunning<br />If I couldn’t laugh, I just would go insane.”<br /><br />Song: Changes in Latitude<br />Artist: Jimmy Buffett<br /><br /><br /><span style="font-weight:bold;"><br />Point Eight - The Straight-Shooter</span><br /><br />“It’s like going to confession<br />Every time I hear you speak<br />Some call it sick, but I call it weak.<br /><br />Complain about the present<br />And blame it on the past.<br />I’d like to find your inner child<br />And kick its little ass.<br /><br />Get over it<br />Get over it<br />All the bitchin’ and moanin’<br />And pitchin’ a fit<br />Get over it. Get over it.”<br /><br />Song: Get Over It<br />Artists: The Eagles<br /><br /><br /><span style="font-weight:bold;">Point Nine - The Mediator</span><br /><br />“Let it be, let it be. Let it be, let it be.<br />There will be an answer, let it be.<br /><br />Song: Let it Be<br />Artists: The Beatles<br /><br />“I used to run those battlelines<br />Trying to smooth over what got said.<br />I thought it was my duty<br />To plead and to implore.<br />But I caught too much crossfire<br />In your covert war.”<br /><br />Song: Covert War<br />Artist: David Wilcox<br /><br />Of course, a song by itself cannot communicate the complexity of type. It serves merely as an opening, a blossoming of empathy and a beginning point for inquiry to learn more. Songlines touch our heart for an emotional connection with our own types and others. Perhaps you have some favorite songs that resonate with an aspect of Enneagram type - share them with us here.<br /><br />And visit <a href="http://www.apple.com/iTunes">iTunes</a> to download the above songs for yourself.Lynette Sheppardhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02896463175847071518noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4455006549162031455.post-22150450936566608692009-09-30T21:08:00.000-07:002009-09-30T21:10:10.232-07:00Enneagram Typing - Can It Slide Into Stereotyping?<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_KaFi8eJ0yCM/SsQrgtrLYnI/AAAAAAAAAmA/4RHe2sBxbW8/s1600-h/IMG_0903.JPG"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 300px; height: 400px;" src="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_KaFi8eJ0yCM/SsQrgtrLYnI/AAAAAAAAAmA/4RHe2sBxbW8/s400/IMG_0903.JPG" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5387478895258460786" /></a><br /><br /><br />The short answer is absolutely! Just because we know someone’s type doesn’t mean that they own and exhibit every characteristic of the type. They may not even relate to what might be considered major characteristics.<br /><br />I remember one time some years ago attending a gathering of Enneagram aficionados. We didn’t know one another well, but we all shared our types. A group of 10 or so was over by the buffet table discussing intimate relationship when someone turned to me and said “Of course, you’re a Seven so you have a hard time making a commitment.”<br /><br />Well, that’s simply not true for me. Maybe it was my childhood, maybe my Six Wing’s loyalty bias, maybe it’s my One-to-One subtype but for whatever reason, I actually commit deeply. I’ve been with my husband for 26 wonderful years. And it isn’t that I’m such a great or spiritual Seven, but that this just comes naturally to me. Commitment to work or a project: ditto.<br /><br />Sure monkey mind, reframing, future-tripping,optimistic to a fault, pain averse - all these characteristics played a huge part in my personality. (Hopefully less so now.) But commitment difficulty; just not part of me. So it caught me off guard when I was so quickly and erroneously described vis a vis my Enneagram type. And when I attempted to correct the speaker, he smiled at me and said “Well, maybe you THINK you commit.”<br /><br />Now I don’t think he meant any harm. Certainly I know that denial ain’t just a river in Egypt. And I will cop to all the annoying permutations of type that I have exhibited. But I felt dismissed. He didn’t want to know me - he thought he already did because he knew my type.<br /><br />And I’ve heard countless similar stories from students. At work, a team tried to give a Four the responsibility for decorating an office because “Fours have great aesthetics.” She doesn’t. She likes beauty, especially in nature, but feels she has no color sense or ability in that particular area.<br /><br />Or the One that was told that she must hold grudges because “All Ones do.” It wasn’t true for her. Although the rest of One, the inner critic, black and white thinking, even trapdoor activity she owned completely.<br /><br />Or the woman who was lambasted by a coworker because she was an Eight and “could take it because Eights are tough.” <br /><br />Stereotyping is hurtful. It hurts individuals and it hurts the Enneagram’s credibility. I have one friend who was stereotyped with the Enneagram by an ex and still shudders when he hears the word, Enneagram. He may never be open to it. And that is a shame. <br /><br />The Enneagram is best used as an open inquiry; a common language to ask someone “What’s it like for you?” The minute we think we know someone because we know their type, the minute we name as it were, we stop ‘seeing’ them. <br /><br />The Enneagram is only a starting place for our curiosity and delight in learning the inner terrain of another. It truly is like visiting another culture to visit another type, but then we must go deeper as we learn more about an individual who happens to live in that culture. And who may or may not follow all the customs in the guidebook.Lynette Sheppardhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02896463175847071518noreply@blogger.com6tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4455006549162031455.post-22468178316256193982009-09-17T14:40:00.000-07:002009-09-17T14:42:23.583-07:00Greed vs Generosity - Enneagram Inquiry III<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_KaFi8eJ0yCM/SrKtEBW5uHI/AAAAAAAAAjw/NiMXpxrj6qw/s1600-h/sunset+palm+grove.jpg"><img style="margin: 0px auto 10px; display: block; text-align: center; cursor: pointer; width: 249px; height: 400px;" src="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_KaFi8eJ0yCM/SrKtEBW5uHI/AAAAAAAAAjw/NiMXpxrj6qw/s400/sunset+palm+grove.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5382554789256738930" border="0" /></a><br /><br /><br />I was talking with a friend about the question of greed. “Isn’t fear what really is underneath greed?” she asked. I think to an extent that is true. Still it is so much easier to notice greed in ourselves than it is to dig down to our fear (although the 24 hour news channels would have us believe that nearly everyone in the US. is terrified.).<br /><br />What do we fear really? That there won’t be enough money, food, safety, etc.? Surely that is part of what drives our greedy impulses. But underneath that, is there something more hidden?<br /><br />Can it be that we sometimes feel empty? Is there a space or void that needs to be filled, leading to grasping and greed. Anxiety and contraction may be part of this bargain. There won’t be enough ‘whatever” to fill it - I have to make sure I get enough. It’s pure survival.<br /><br />Yet when we are aware and remember that we are Essence, remember that we ARE happiness, the hole is full. As it always was, allowing us to be more expansive, open, even generous.<br /><br />What about generosity? Is it the opposite of greed or just part of a continuum? Can noticing generosity in ourselves with the energetic states and body awarenesses that accompany it lead to more generosity? And might we begin to become generous with ourselves as well as others? What might that look and feel like?<br /><br />Generosity does not mean giving away the farm. Awareness can help us to know when to go to the grocery store and get our survival needs addressed and also when to let go, when we have enough in this moment, when we may give to others quite naturally.<br /><br />In much the same way, the higher virtue for Nine, Love, is distinguished from indiscriminate merging. I live in a Niney culture in Hawaii. Native Hawaiians at one time gave away the farm (their land and way of life). That wasn’t generosity; that was sleep.<br /><br />They’ve been reclaiming it slowly and like the awakened Nine now experience Aloha (Love) with boundaries. As one of the elders said recently, “You have to aloha yourself, otherwise you no can aloha anybody else.”<br /><br />And what about Generosity with a capital G - essential Generosity. Essence is always there - how can we get out of our own way, so it may reveal itself to us and shine through us.<br /><br />Over the next couple of weeks, let’s observe the ways that we experience generosity in ourselves, or recognize it in others and whether it increases by our noticing. Let us know what you learn. I’ll report back here - I hope you will as well.Lynette Sheppardhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02896463175847071518noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4455006549162031455.post-41266272965065593102009-08-29T14:35:00.000-07:002009-08-29T14:38:15.044-07:00Greed vs Generosity - Enneagram Inquiry II<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_KaFi8eJ0yCM/SpmfekjWYkI/AAAAAAAAAhI/E7oY2McHfn8/s1600-h/14u24me.jpg"><img style="margin: 0px auto 10px; display: block; text-align: center; cursor: pointer; width: 400px; height: 344px;" src="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_KaFi8eJ0yCM/SpmfekjWYkI/AAAAAAAAAhI/E7oY2McHfn8/s400/14u24me.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5375502977800233538" border="0" /></a><br />Ever since the IEA (International Enneagram Association) meeting in Las Vegas, I’ve been pondering greed vs generosity. David Daniels, Russ Hudson, and Jessica Dibb presented a thought-provoking and heartfelt inquiry into the subject. (See blog entry dated August 6, 2009.)<br /><br />And I kid you not, I was lost in thought about personal manifestations of greed when I saw this license plate in front of me. 14U24ME. Stunned, I took several photos through the windshield while driving with my other hand.<br /><br />Now, I’m not pointing fingers at whoever has this license plate; for all I know it’s a family joke or some other such innocuous sentiment. That’s not the point. The point is that greed is so pervasive that we may not even notice its effect on and in our lives.<br /><br />Greed. We don’t dispute its existence. We believe there is greed in the world and that it globally corrosive. Still it’s always “out there”- somewhere else - objectified. And maybe that is part of the problem.<br /><br />Wall Street is greedy. The banks are greedy. Shareholders are greedy. Corporations are greedy. Oil companies, big business, developers. These “things” and faceless groups are greedy.<br /><br />Distancing ourselves in this manner effectively keeps us from examining the roles greed plays in our own lives. And until we become aware of greed working within each of us, there will be no shifts in consciousness on a more global scale.<br /><br />Through dyad exercises and a panel of all the types, the IEA presentation illuminated the different faces of personal greed vis a vis each of the nine Enneagram styles. David, Russ, and Jessica allowed us to discover the nuances of greed within ourselves. I’ll use myself and one of my personal greed permutations as an example.<br /><br />When I’m in my Fiveish space, the Security Point for Seven, I might feel very proud of the fact that I don’t need more stuff or to go shopping. But in fact, my greed may show up very differently - in guarding my private time to the exclusion of loved ones, of withholding time and my presence.<br /><br />How do I know if this is a product of normal healthy boundary setting or greed? By observing. By activating my inner observer, I can discern the difference. There is a grasping quality, even a desperation to greed. The energetic sense is quite different.<br /><br />If I’m simply in need of a little time, the energy around that sensed desire feels calm, centered, quiet. I sense no body tightening or strictures and can give myself just enough time for self-care. No more, no less.<br /><br />Driven by greed, I feel myself pull inside and tighten around my perceived need. I hold myself armored against intrusion. It feels like I might lose something. Energy or time or some ineffable something might be taken from me.<br /><br />Watching greed within myself, without judgment, simply noticing, allows the relaxation of the stricture. I breathe into the here and now, rather than fearing the future intrusion that may never materialize. I can be present fully to myself and others.<br /><br />The conversation is only beginning on this critical topic. Think about and/or comment on these questions. How does personal greed appear in your life? How is it related to your Enneagram type? How do you work with greed? And how does generosity play out in your life? Let us know your thoughts, feelings, sensations on the subjects of greed and generosity.Lynette Sheppardhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02896463175847071518noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4455006549162031455.post-33346314535259430702009-08-06T10:29:00.001-07:002009-08-06T13:29:10.341-07:00Greed vs Generosity - An Enneagram Inquiry<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_KaFi8eJ0yCM/SnsTHcmYFKI/AAAAAAAAAfA/tibWS3usoqA/s1600-h/mandala+purple+and+orange.jpg"><img style="margin: 0px auto 10px; display: block; text-align: center; cursor: pointer; width: 267px; height: 400px;" src="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_KaFi8eJ0yCM/SnsTHcmYFKI/AAAAAAAAAfA/tibWS3usoqA/s400/mandala+purple+and+orange.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5366904399599244450" border="0" /></a><br /><a href="http://www.enneagramworldwide.com/">David Daniels</a>, <a href="http://www.enneagraminstitute.com/">Russ Hudson</a>, and <a href="http://www.inspirationcommunity.org/About.html">Jessica Dibb</a> conducted an important and meaningful session at the <a href="http://www.internationalenneagram.org/">IEA</a> (International Enneagram Association) gathering entitled “From Personal Greed to Essential Generosity: The Journey through the Shadow of<br />Inner Emptiness”.<br /><br />A didactic intro to greed by <a href="http://www.enneagramworldwide.com/">David Daniels</a> addressed a biological basis for greed in all mammals. Scarcity, real and imagined, can trigger greed as a survival mechanism. So there’s no blame here - but awareness might help us take a deeper look at greed within each of us.<br /><br />Further, in the bigger picture, how is greed affecting us on a planetary scale? With so much “plenty” in the first world, how are we succumbing to an inner emptiness, a scarcity that cannot be remedied?<br /><br />Jessica led a meditation where we were invited to look at greed in our own lives, and how it played out. We also journeyed to connect with our generosity; the ways in which we are open and giving rather than constricted and grasping. Most important was to notice these states without judging.<br /><br />We broke into dyads and did an exercise of alternating listener and questioner, examining greed and generosity with the lens of our Enneagram types. Essential generosity was a necessary part of the inquiry.<br /><br />David and Russ then led a panel of each of the nine types. The exemplars revealed their experiences vis a vis their type with greed, generosity, and Essential Generosity. Over and over, regardless of type, greed was experienced as constricting while generosity felt spacious. Noticing body sensations can be a helpful adjunct to the inner observer in illuminating greed vs. generosity.<br /><br />The inquiry into greed and generosity is critical at this time. Our resources are finite, the world population is growing, and the earth is warming.<br /><br />As the spiritual texts and teachers say “As Above, So Below”. Addressing personal greed, cultivating awareness of our fullness rather than emptiness, and allowing Essential Generosity to shine through may indeed be some of the most important work we undertake. Ever. Let’s begin a conversation with ourselves and one another to illuminate the shadow of greed right now.Lynette Sheppardhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02896463175847071518noreply@blogger.com2