tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4455006549162031455.post2215045093656660869..comments2023-05-04T04:21:54.340-07:00Comments on Everyday Enneagram Blog: Enneagram Typing - Can It Slide Into Stereotyping?Lynette Sheppardhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02896463175847071518noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4455006549162031455.post-13320885894361236422009-11-10T14:42:34.558-08:002009-11-10T14:42:34.558-08:00this is so true, I'm a 4w3 and I hear fours de...this is so true, I'm a 4w3 and I hear fours described quite frequently as emotional messes and an assumption no practicality or common sense. Just because someone is a four doesn't mean emotional expression is all there is to their personality.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4455006549162031455.post-6581302049446121772009-10-11T12:10:26.533-07:002009-10-11T12:10:26.533-07:00Thanks for your insightful sharing, everyone. Tes...Thanks for your insightful sharing, everyone. Tess, my husband is a Three with a Four wing, definitely is not like a "typical" Three (and also not at all efficient by his own description.) I loved your story. <br /><br />Thanks Rachel and Rev Dave for your atypical Eight reflections. I hope it makes us all think twice before deciding we know someone simply because we know their "type". <br />Glad you liked the photo, Jon. <br /><br />And Rachel, I'd be delighted to cross post on the Enneagram Lovers site - I'll visit and find out how.Lynette Sheppardhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02896463175847071518noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4455006549162031455.post-65668932161394338392009-10-02T01:03:03.397-07:002009-10-02T01:03:03.397-07:00Love this post!
It's so true. We may be our t...Love this post!<br /><br />It's so true. We may be our types (or are they simply a part of what makes us us?), but we are each that type in a unique way.<br /><br />I've heard similar stories to the ones you share, especially people who have been "typed" by an ex and now have a lot of resistance to the whole idea of the enneagram. (The sad thing is I often believe these people have been MIS-typed on top of it all!)<br /><br />I find people are surprised by my enneagram type, Eight, and I do a lot of explaining about how I'm not a "typical" presenting Eight.<br /><br />Part of why I think I'm called to put out the word about the enneagram is to change how Eight is described. A lot of the writings about Eight are so limiting, and Eight is rarely celebrated in our culture.<br /><br />Would you consider cross-posting this article into our community site at Enneagram Lovers? I think our people would love to read it!Rachel Whalleyhttp://enneagramlovers.ning.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4455006549162031455.post-31747164657100950022009-10-01T09:55:36.720-07:002009-10-01T09:55:36.720-07:00The post is right on, but I especially like the ph...The post is right on, but I especially like the photo!Jon Lelandhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03378101470174709003noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4455006549162031455.post-49923006368240250672009-10-01T05:51:11.808-07:002009-10-01T05:51:11.808-07:00I try very hard to avoid using it to make assumpti...I try very hard to avoid using it to make assumptions about people. Especially in my pastoral/spiritual direction work. My view of a person's type helps me frame some questions in a particular way that usually helps the person go deeper. And I rarely even tell people "oh, you're an Enneagram 1, so..." Unless someone asks, the Enneagram sits silently in the background.<br /><br />Part of that comes from being an atypical 8. I can see clearly in the depths of the type description that I am there, but the surface attributes just don't fit me. So I don't assume that for others.RevDavehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08912696569901311742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4455006549162031455.post-42367308202690892622009-10-01T02:08:14.086-07:002009-10-01T02:08:14.086-07:00Couldn't agree more. I'm a Three and for o...Couldn't agree more. I'm a Three and for one thing I have changed over the years - I'm genuinely not nearly as status conscious as I used to be (although occasionally it still jumps up and bites me when I least expect it). But for example I've never been efficient. You should see my desk right now, I can't find a thing. And I have a strong Four wing which I think makes me softer and more reflective than some other Threes I've met.<br /><br />But an interesting thing happens when I'm giving an Enneagram workshop. I find myself performing Three. Presenting the over-achieving, go-getting stereotype. I rationalise this by saying it will be easier for the group to "get", and perhaps it is. But really, it's a direct manifestation of several aspects of my Three-ness. I can often sort of observe while I'm doing it, and I do amuse myself! I generally share this with the group at some point, as a further layer of my type.<br /><br />And another element of this is that I often think I'm not a good enough Three, because I haven't achieved <i>enough</i>, been successful <i>enough</i>. So I am personally judging myself by the stereotype, not by the underlying dynamics.<br /><br />This is a long and perhaps self-involved comment, but you got me thinking how careful we have to be with stereotypes.Tesshttp://www.anchormast.comnoreply@blogger.com